Expectations can be pretty personal. In this day and age, we tend to expect a lot from ourselves, and also from those around us.
When we don’t live up to our own expectations ourselves, the disappointment in ourselves may impact our self-esteem and feelings of self-worth and accomplishment. In the worst case scenario, not living up to our own expectations could even lead to mental illnesses, such as a burn-out or depression.
When other’s don’t live up to our expectations, we may feel disappointed, angry or frustrated, and it may ultimately impact the relationship.
But what we don’t always realise, is that our expectations of others may impact them on a very personal level too. The expectations of others, and not living up to those, can have a similar effect on us as not living up to our own expectations. Especially when someone important to us, either in our personal lives or in our working lives, continually tells us that we aren’t meeting their expectations.
So when expecting something of yourself or of others, do it consciously and ask yourself the question if you’re being fair and if those expectations are helpful and beneficial.
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